THE STORY OF THE OLD ME AND HOW I CHANGED!
Do you worry about things? I’m not talking about serious things, but the things that you really don’t need to worry about such as whether or not people like you, or that it may rain when you go on a picnic tomorrow.
I used to worry about everything and I mean EVERYTHING! How are my kids doing? Is the dog okay when I leave for work? What if I lose my job? How will I pay my bills? And so it went on……
It got to a point that I expected to worry about the slightest thing. BUT the worry didn’t change anything and I didn’t feel any better … instead I created bad bad migraines for myself. Now that was not good because the migraine would hang around for days and I couldn’t do a thing about it … except worry that I couldn’t do a thing about it!
One day while laying in a pitch dark room with an icepack on my head and a bucket by my side incase I threw up - yes, it was a bad migraine day due to worrying about something stupid - I started thinking about how sick and tired I was of having soooo many migraines. I knew it wasn’t to do with the food I was eating - I had already eliminated the culprits there. But something had to be causing them … so what was it?
Laying in my bed I had all the time in the world to think, and the only pattern I could come up with was worrying. As I remembered my last migraine, and the one before that and the one before that, the only thing they had in common was me feeling worried, tense and anxious. I couldn’t remember the reason for these feelings but I could remember the feelings inside of me.
That had to be the answer - worrying caused my migraines. Plus I realised that all I seemed to have in my life was things and situations to worry about.
OR DID I?
Could my thoughts be causing me to only look for things to worry about and then not enjoy life as I should be?
When I was having fun I never had a migrane AND I FELT GREAT.
Thinking a bit more I realised that the things I worried about were my choice - nobody told me to worry about them. My kids were happy, my dog was happy and I was great at my job ………..
SO WHAT WAS I WORRYING ABOUT?
One thing I knew for sure was that I wanted to feel great ALL THE TIME. But how could I when I had all these things to worry about?
The answer was simple …
by choosing not to worry about them.
I was in control of my thoughts and feelings. I had a choice to feel happy or to worry.
That day was a turning point for me. I started to focus on the things that made me feel happy and worked on leaving the unnecessary worry behind.
Making a change with your mindset is not going to happen overnight but you have to want to change your thoughts if it is going to happen.
Now when I find myself worrying about something unnecessarily, I don’t get angry with myself. Instead I remind myself that I don’t need to have those thoughts and then choose to think of something that makes my heart feel warm.
I know that I am in control of my thoughts and feelings.
I know that I can feel great everyday.
Anyone can do this … I’m nobody special.
If you want to make changes with how you feel or react to things, start by realising that only you, and nobody else, can cause you to feel an emotion. Take control of your feelings by thinking positive thoughts and make everyday feel great.
I believe in you!